Dr Janet Hall, clinical psychologist, sex therapist

January 04, 2005

 

Tip 5 Take Time to Really Know Your Child

How well do you know your child?

1. Who is your child’s best friend?
2. What colour would he like his room to be?
3. Who is your child’s greatest hero?
4. What embarrasses him most?
5. What is his biggest fear?
6. In the school gym, would your child rather play basketball, exercise
7. What is his favourite kind of music?
8. Who outside the immediate family has most influenced your child’s life?
9. What are his favourite and least favourite subjects in school?
10. Of which accomplishment is your child proudest?
11. What is your child’s biggest complaint about the family?
12. What is his favourite television show?
13. What sport does your child most enjoy?
14. If you could buy your child anything in the world, what would be his first choice?
15. Who is your child’s favourite teacher?
16. What makes your child really angry?
17. Does your child feel liked by the children at school?
18. What would your child like to be when he grows up?
19. What has been the biggest disappointment in your child’s life this year?
20. Does your child feel too small or too big for his age?
21. Which gift from you does your child cherish most?
22. What would your child’s choice be for a vacation: a camping trip, a visit to a big city or a boat trip? 
23. Which of these chores does your child dislike most: drying the dishes, cleaning his room or taking out the trash?

Top Tip for the Day

How to coach a scared child to stay in bed in the middle of the night
Tell your child this:
“Sometimes lying in the dark is not nice. Sometimes you can feel the dark and it feels like it’s heavy and it’s even moving. Then your mind thinks, what’s moving? Sometimes you think bogeymen or ghosts are even there! Or even burglars or bad men! Everybody has a night when they wake up and wonder what’s happening. If this happens to you, just remember that you’re safe.
And play this game:

THE WHO AM I? WHERE AM I? GAME
• All you need to do for this game is to say:
‘My name is … (put your name in the blank space). It’s night-time and I’m safe in bed.’
• Then you can feel the bed and say:
‘This is the bed.’
• Then feel the pillow and say:
‘This is the pillow.’
• If you are near a wall, you can touch the wall and say:
‘This is the wall.’
• Then you can touch your nose, your tummy, your feet ... all the parts of your body.